Coaches also have to deliver hard news. How does Grove handle performance reviews? Because in my experience they're the thing everyone dreads, on both sides.
He starts there. He asked managers how they felt giving reviews and heard anxious, guilty, uncomfortable. Then subordinates said feedback was vague and full of surprises. His conclusion is that reviews are badly done almost everywhere, and yet they're the single most powerful piece of task-relevant feedback a manager gives. The purpose, he insists, is not to justify a raise or document the past. It's to improve the person's future performance.
What goes wrong in the assessment itself?
A few traps. One is confusing presentation with output. Someone who talks a good game gets rated on potential, but Grove's rule is that a manager's rating can't exceed the rating you'd give their group's results. Another is timing. He tells a story against himself, giving a glowing review to a manager whose numbers looked solid, then watching that group collapse later. The good numbers reflected old work, and he'd ignored the warning signs in front of him.
That's an honest admission. And the conversation itself?
He gives three principles he calls the three Ls. Level: be completely frank, including with praise. Listen: communication isn't done until the message has actually landed, so watch their reactions and keep going until you're sure. And leave yourself out: the review is for them, not for your anxiety about giving it.
That 'level' principle sounds like another book, Radical Candor. Kim Scott warns about caring so much that you stay silent, which she calls ruinous empathy.
Yes, and her fix is to care personally while challenging directly. Grove uses a different framework, but both treat vague, comfortable feedback as a failure to help the person. For Grove, the point is their future performance.
I'd think the hard reviews need the most care.
He'd partly push back. He observes that managers write detailed improvement plans for struggling people and hand top performers a pat on the back. He thinks that's backwards, because helping your best people get even better moves total output the most. For serious problems, he describes a predictable path: the person ignores it, denies it, blames others, then accepts responsibility. The manager's job is to move them along that path. And the goal isn't agreement. It's commitment to act.
What if they never agree?
Then he says you use your positional authority, require the change, and monitor it. Agreement is nice. Commitment is required.